I was roaming around in the Yahoo! site for the first time when i saw the "Personals" category. Without any hesitations, i clicked it and saw the front page of the "Personals" . Immediately, i told myself that it must be a dating site for men and women to look for potential soulmates. This triggered my thoughts about the "aftermath" of the first impression(perception) from my previous post and how important communication is, apart from the impressions.
As mentioned before, we perceive someone based on first impression to make certain judgement on the person. It all starts with the display picture and a brief description about yourself. When an individual visits a dating site of this sort, he/she would look for the potential soulmate based on the looks alone. Undeniably, he/she would go for the good-looking ones. Nevertheless, never judge a book by its cover, as many not so good-looking ones can be better in many ways. Apart from the appearance, people tend to look for similar traits or hobbies as a step to feel similar to the target person, and yet, they also look for unique traits so as to see the opposite as a person who is uniquely himself/herself. Once these qualities are fulfilled, many would start to engage in conversations with the target person in order to further understand that person.
These first impressions play a major role in forming a strong connection between two parties to embark in a long-term relationship. People in today's society are busy and stressed with their life. The search for the "other half" is secondary to their work. This creates lesser opportunities for many to socialise, which results in them being single until a later age. What is important here is that one needs to priortise what they need at their different phases of life. Work is important, so is marriage. To attain a balance in these two is like balancing oneself on a thin wooden pole. You need to have the ability and confidence to balance and the faith that the pole don't break.
All in all, communication is important and people should spare a thought on their future in terms of relationships. Surely no one wants to be single until the day that they die. That would be very lonely. So for all the singles out there, remember to create a good impression of yourself and keep a lookout for potential partners through socializing and for those who are attached, place faith in your partner and exercise healthy communication with your loved ones in order to keep the relationship going. Good luck people!
7 comments:
Indeed creating a good impression is key in the start of relationships, however, we also must maintain it. There is a saying that when someone gives you a good impression, after time passes by, all his bad points will cumulate and your overall evaluation of him will fall. The same holds true for the opposite. What do you think of it?
"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" as we often hear. For a fellow coursemate could be my version of cinderella while my best buddy could feel she's just the typical plain jane.
Perception plays an important role in our lifes as it helps us to determine which stimulus to focus on or ignore.
A relationship cannot survive without communication, for it is what connects two people throught thoughts and soul. Thus, it is important for people, couples, to take time out to have a "heart-to-heart" talk occasionally, to clear up any doubts or unhappiness that one has kept within oneself.
The saying is only applicable on specific context only. It is valid if the first impression that we want to create is our real self. However, if we were to pretend to be someone of a different character/personality, that first impression we create will not be an appropriate one to be judged on.
Hi Zhong Wei. Personally for myself, I wouldn't choose to choose a mate through online dating because it is quite difficult to gauge how the person is like in reality. Moreover, it is also rather difficult to make an accurate first impression based on the picture.
For myself, I would say that looks is not the major factor in looking for a mate. Maybe guys are more visual creatures? haha... Instead, I think that the reciprocity, or chemistry through conversations would play a greater role.
I think looks are important in a way because one would definitely find someone whom you are comfortable looking at him or her. It does not mean that the person have to be very good-looking. So i disagree with Wendy for saying that looks are not the major factor for looking for a mate.
Well Chloe, perhaps that would be my personal opinion then. Afterall, we have learnt that physical appearance only plays a part in the initial stages of the befriending part. After that, the outcome of interpersonal attraction depends on the other factors such as compatiability and similiarities between both parties.
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